July 08, 2009
I am a devoted "Seinfeld" fan; I have watched every episode a few times, and could quote endlessly... Of course I took many quizzes on "Which character of Seinfeld are you?" - and usually I end up being Elaine.
I remember the times when feminism was just a polite way of describing a 'woman of light morals'; living in a country where men have barely stepped outside of the cave ( and I am not inferring Plato's cave...) - I am so used to hearing the overly used cliche - feminists are ugly, sexually deprived women, with nothing better to do than rant about how man treat them badly.
A joke has seriously troubled my teenage years - "A husband comes home, with his buddy and without as much as a word, beats his wife. Buddy asks: Why did you do that for??? Husband replies: Don't worry, she knows why!!" To this day, I fail to understand why each and every living man I know laughs his head off at this joke. Statistics show that in my country, domestic violence is very high; guess the joke has served its purpose, transgressing metaphysics and turning into an all too convenient number.
I am privileged to have met a well-known feminist writer; I have read one of her books and followed her column in a weekly social science magazine; while we had a few cold beers, she confessed, in a light vein, about the hateful messages she is receiving - the labels go from "ugly lesbian", "fat cow", "repressed nymphomaniac", to who knows what. I wonder if awareness has by any chance increased since access to feminist theory is more available via media and literature. Judging by the sexist advertising videos, news or tv shows, I am tempted to say it's unlikely. I am appalled to visit the toys section in supermarkets - the girls shelves are packed with miniature kitchens, vacuum cleaners and grocery stores on the one side, and bimbo attires on the other - miniature beauty parlors, disco outfits and similar. Housewife or prostitute in the making? What happened to the good old "in-between"?
Anyway, back to Elaine.
Elaine: You know what your problem is? Your standards are too high.
Jerry: I went out with you.
Elaine: That's because my standards are too low.
Elaine: I'm not a lesbian. I hate men, but I'm not a lesbian.
*** To all women who can display a genuinely honest smile in a men's world.